Just an update. I've since talked to the friends that sent the e-mail mentioned in the previous post and we've worked everything out. I've thought about deleting that post, but have decided against it. I wrote that post after I felt extremely hurt and betrayed and I have thought about deleting it just in case I do ever share this blog with people I actually know in real life, but I've decided it against it. I think it stands as an example as to some of the extremely unintentionally hurtful things people say to others following a miscarraige. So I'm leaving it. I want that post to serve as a reminder to people to please be careful about what you say to others that are experiencing something you have no experience with. I realize now my friends did not mean how they came across, I think they were honestly trying to express they were worried about me, but unfortunately that is not what was said. I have truly forgiven what was said but the words still haunt my thoughts.
T. told me the other night, that if you allow someone's words to offend you, then you have given them too much power. This statement struck a cord with me, I let my friends words destroy me one day, I started believing they were right and that I should've been past my grief and I was stupid for feeling this way 5 months later. I now realize I gave them too much power, I cared too much for their opinion when all that really matters is my own.
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I care FAR too much about what other people think but I'm working on it! For what it's worth, I'm glad you decided to not delete the post. That's how you were feeling at the time, and you can't go back and change how you were feeling, so why delete the post and pretend you didn't feel that way?
I'm glad you and your friends are working it out. =)
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